Where are we left

Another rambling of inside my head. If we give someone to God to help them and we are close to the situation where does that leave us? Here we see everyday this persons struggles knowing God is there doing his invisible (to our eyes) work, but what about those left unknowing daily. We don't know if it will really work if this person will see the light and turn from their own path to Gods. We don't know if it will take a day, week, month or years for this person to heal or if they ever will. So when do we know when to wait and be patient for them and when it's time to say God this is yours I have to go? What dictates here and now? Who says this is worth it even if they never see the light and who says no its time for you to gain control and let this person just wonder? So many opinions and scripture but I want concrete this is your path. I want Jesus to come sit next to me and say my sister no patience is ever enough, or my daughter you must move forward with life for you have given him to me and I'll take it from here so you go and enjoy what time you have left. Why don't we get like a 5 time lifeline with Christ when we are born. 5 times in your life you can call him to sit next to you and discuss what is on your heart. We could still have our journals, meditation and prayer, but a little additional loveing on daily would be great! Loving someone lost in the dark tends to make me feel lost. I find attacks on my life become more frequent and more determined to turn me back into who I was before. If I could I would call Jesus from heaven to save my husband! Without a second thought. This makes me feel selfish because Jesus could of called the angels down to save him as he hung on the cross but he did not. I don't know if it makes a difference but Jesus knew he would eventually die and I fear living with the pain for 30 plus more years. I do trust Jesus I am just wondering in this darkened state will I find my husband to pull him back into the light with me?

American momma!